Career important or relations?

I firmly used to believe till date that preserving and nurturing relations was hell lot of important than your career. I mean ya, even the latter is important but not more than the former. But yesterday, when I had a conversation with a friend of mine on this one, he had a rather different view on this; a view which I did not like in the first say, but after thinking about it for a couple of minutes, I got to know its underlying .

He said "I am very selfish about my career,far more beyond my relations."

Now this was what I could not digest and enquired further. Then came the underlying thought beyond what he said "Till the time I dont complete my career, I would not be able to do all that I wish to do and to give it all to the people I consider mine!". Now that was what took me by thought....it really did make sense. Didn't it?

Trusting a person isn't that easy ...

Trust, a simple word to be said but has lots of strings attached to it. A person who is there with you for years may break your trust but another you know only for a couple of weeks may keep up to it. Life basically needs to be understood as the projection by a person must not be the only base on which we can the judge the limit to which he/she can be trusted.
But what does breaking someone's trust imply? Is it just sharing your secrets with someone else????
certainly not!  It may even imply behaving completely opposite to the expectations of your close ones or doing/hiding things from them just because you might hurt him/her.
Whiling away for a time is something considerable, but a long-time involvement in something which has its roots to the breaking of trust cant simply be tolerated. But yes, there is even a way to express yourself in front of the person who has broken your trust. That is because the person might have even done it out of having no option, not out of the feeling to hurt you. First things first, the person owes you a silent clarification about why he/she did it. After that, if you feel you may react the way you wish to depending on how you find out the clarification.

How much important is "possessiveness" in a relationship?

                

Well...a basic fundamental of life which we come upon at some or the other time in our life,a feeling imbibed deep within our heart and instigated by our mind, a feeling which results in many catastrophes or maybe lead to stronger relations.
But what do we consider it as is completely one's own opinion. A person on one side may feel the possessiveness of his loved one to hamper his freedom. He eventually gets tired of it and finds reasons for doing things the other person doesn't like and gradually ends up in telling lies; just because he doesn't want to mess up with his relation neither does he wish to lose his freedom.
On the other side , lack of possessiveness may even result in an empty relation, implying that both the people are enjoying their very own freedom because there is no interference of your close one.But at a later stage, one of the person may even get a thought as "Is this person really concerned about me?". And the worst part is when this question arises, because in spite of having such a doubt in your mind you cannot go and confront your close one-because this is what you asked for yourself!


Freedom should not be completely linked with possessiveness, its something how we define it. Freedom can be enjoyed just with a little modifications in our definition, taking out some parts which essentially hamper our relation and the rest remains with us. In plain simple words, I personally believe that there should be some amount of possessiveness in every relation . This helps in maintaining ups and downs in a relation and also to understand each other better. It further facilitates us to keep track of each others life and prevent any misunderstandings which may arise due to insufficient knowledge about each others activities.
But yes, finally this is my personal opinion and it may differ from person to person. I would like to further hear if someone has a different viewpoint on this